Counseling FAQs

What is my approach to doing Spiritual Direction work?

I bring to this work a deep respect for the perfection and wisdom of your life, and for your intelligence and free will. I don’t know what the right answers for you are, but I can facilitate a process that will assist you in finding what you are seeking.

My focuses and intentions include humility, acceptance and non-judgment , open-mindedness,  lack of agendas or attachment to outcomes, confidentiality, and a deep willingness to surrender to and trust in the process, allowing it to go where it wants to go…allowing you to go where you want to go.

Spirit is the true “director” in this work. Our work together helps direct attention to the places where Spirit reveals Itself.

 

What topics or areas of life are suitable for Spiritual Direction work?

Any issue or topic can be worthy of exploration in Spiritual Direction, including  discernment and decision-making, feeling stuck, transition and change, the desire to create a more spiritual life, crisis, finding a more authentic calling or purpose in your life, finding more meaningful work, cultivating a deeper relationship with Spirit as you understand it, dealing with grief and loss, and much more.

 

What are the tools and skills I use in Spiritual Direction work?

Deep listening, profound respect for you and your path, compassion, the skillful use of questions, acknowledging/encouraging, cultivating and making room for silence, humor, gently and appropriately assisting you in going deeper into the topics you bring for exploration, helping you to notice and pay attention to openings, insights, reactions.

With your permission, at times I will offer ideas, tools, reflections, and other possibilities for you to consider.

 

What are my qualifications to practice Spiritual Direction? What kind of training did I receive?   

I completed my training at the Hesychia School of Spiritual Direction in Tucson, AZ.

Hesychia means inner stillness/silence…which is beautifully evocative of the essence of Spiritual Direction: allowing silence, cultivating stillness, providing room for insight.

My training was multi-faith, and included instruction in working with all major spiritual traditions and paths, trauma, grief, psychological dimensions of Spiritual Direction, ethics and confidentiality, working with imagery, the use of sacred texts, writing as spiritual practice, 12 Step spirituality, gender issues, sexual orientation, and mind/body/spirit wholeness.

 

What are the similarities between Spiritual Direction and Coaching?

Coaching and Spiritual Direction, as I practice them, have many similarities. Ultimately I find that these two modalities have much common ground and I bring my training and experience with each to all my clients. Both methodologies accept that the wisdom you seek is within you, and that my role is to assist you in finding it…through deep listening, skillful questions, welcoming silence and allowing space for reflection, acknowledging and affirming and encouraging, gently challenging you and assisting you in going deeper, etc.

Both Spiritual Direction and coaching work beautifully with any topic or area of life—Spiritual Direction is not just useful for “spiritual” matters, and coaching methodologies and the ways I practice them work extremely well in exploring deeply spiritual matters.

 

What is the history of Spiritual Direction? How did it come about?

Spiritual Direction is a nearly 2,000 year old tradition that began in the early 3rd century AD (CE), when local residents, seekers, and spiritual aspirants began to spend time, “one on one”, with the Desert Mothers and Fathers, early Christian mystics/hermits living solitary lives in the deserts of the Middle East. These Desert Elders sought to be attentive to God’s movement in their lives, and to the inner motivations which lead one closer to or further from Truth. They didn’t so much answer seekers’ questions as share with them the fruits of their own journey…and from these humble beginnings Spiritual Direction, as it came to be known, flowered and grew over the centuries and is now embraced and practiced in many faith traditions.